Sophie's Email Bag


Dear Sophie,
 
I have to share my love story to you and your readers! 
 
"Steve" and I met a few years ago at a dance, but I was not interested in him at all at first sight.  But he was persistent, and after getting to know him, I realized he had a great sense of humor.  This is what I became attracted to.  I should have looked beyond his physical appearance and allowed myself to get to know the person.  His personality makes him adorable and many people like him when they first meet him. 
 
I have two sons who adore him, and he would do anything for them.  My sons appreciate him for making me so happy.  Oh, we have our ups and downs, but our make-up times are awesome! 
 
He accepts me just as I am and doesn't try to change me at all.  I think that's rare.  He has seen me at my worst and my best, and he still loves me no matter what.  His love is unconditional and does not want to change me at all. 
 
Yes, a wedding is immanent when the time is right.  I am so blessed that he has come into my life;  he also plays a positive role model for my sons, and I hope his love for me will be a good influence on them when they begin choosing their soul .
 
I wish everybody out there good luck and hope they find the man or woman of their dreams.  They are really out there;  you just have to keep searching and keep the faith.
 
"Sassy Nurse"
 
Dear "Sassy Nurse",

Thanks for the beautiful love story.  You have renewed my faith that I still might meet someone.
 
Good luck to you and "Steve".
 
Lovingly,
 
Sophie 

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Dear Sophie,
 
My partner and I wanted to enhance our love making this weekend by experimenting with Viagra for myself, Niagra and Viacreme for her.  I wanted to share with you and your readers the results.
 
Firstly, I did not have a prescription for the Viagra, so I have not been diagnosed by a doctor that I needed this.  I just took it recreationally.  It was amazing, but I had an erection for 36 hours.  You can imagine how the weekend went!
 
My partner drank the blue herbal drink, Niagra, and didn't feel any enhancement to her stimulation.  She said it tasted like blueberry Kool Aid and will not try it again.
 
She also used the topical creme, Viacreme, that is $17 for a tiny tube (four applications) and said it just felt as if there was menthol as an ingredient, but got no "kick start" from it.  She said she didn't feel as if she needed it and wouldn't spend the money for another tube.
 
All in all, the weekend was wonderful and full of excitement.  However, we won't be experimenting with some of these items in the future.  We were just trying to get a boost to our romance, but with the way our relationship is growing on it's own, we won't need to add to our lovemaking with drugs or enhancements.
 
Our relationship is broadening and we owe it mostly to communication.  We are each willing to listen to the other and meet the others needs.
 
Thanks for sharing this with your readers, Sophie.
 
"Richard"
 
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Dear "Richard",

I met a sales rep from Pfizer the other night and asked him about Viagra being taken recreationally.  Not a good idea!  You really need to take it with a doctor's supervision to avoid any side-effects.  Be careful, "Richard".  I think your feelings for your partner will be aphrodisiac enough for both of you.

 
My hairdresser sells the Viacreme at her salon.  I asked her about the comments from her patrons who had tried the sexual aid.  She said the women who were needing a "kick start" were helped by using it, but the women who were aroused naturally didn't seem to feel any effect when applying it.  It must be working...the husbands are the ones returning to the salon to buy the tine tubes four at a time. 
 
Good to know!
 
Thanks for sharing your results with us, "Richard".  Just keep the communication flowing.  Good luck.
 
Lovingly,
 
Sophie

Dear "Richard",

Thank you for telling me how much my column has helped you and your partner with your relationship. You had asked about a woman's "G" spot. Some doctors say that it is a myth, but it is said to be an area of soft tissue about two inches in the woman's vagina, and when stimulated brings her to an orgasm. Did you know men have "G" spots too? Another topic, another time -- perhaps.

It appears you are trying to please your woman, but haven't found her buttons. Ask her. She knows her body better than anyone. Don't be shy, but listen as she explains and shows you what pleases her. We women have lots of buttons ("G" spots) to push. and we should know where they are and how to push them. Yes, "Richard", although emotional critters, we women need the same physical stimulation that you guys need. Why do you think we buy so many "toys" from Adam and Eve? And dual controlled, too. You would be so envious if you knew what is available for women.

As with any car, we come with our own instruction manual. We are each unique, but similar. You don't get in a car and start driving 90 miles an hour. You check the car out for properly inflated tires, check under the hood to make sure the fluids are just right, then you get in the car, drive slowly until the car gets warmed up, then begin your journey. You'll know when to accelerate. Enjoy the ride, don't worry about the destination. You'll both know where you are when you get there. Happy trails!

Lovingly, "Sophie"


Dear "Lonely at the Top",

So your new partner went through all the required basic acts of foreplay in the beginning of your relationship: kissing, some touching, some talking. Now, he just skips over steps 1-5 and jumps to steps 10-12, all below-the-waist steps. You mentioned you have tried to discuss this with him, but to no avail. Were you serious that all he has in his bag of sexual tricks is either he's on top or you're on top? Nothing else - not even oral? Oh, well for him, of course. Well, let me tell you, "Lonely", unless you are blindly in love with him, or he's got a lot of money (I don't believe in being with any one for that reason), I would say, move on, girlfriend. He's over 50, he won't change. It sounds as if you are a seven-course woman, and he is strictly meat and potatoes. It will never work. Hand him a napkin and move on.

Lovingly,

"Sophie"


Dear "Sophie",

I met a gorgeous guy at a dance and was immediately swept off my feet. The chemistry was so strong, and we fell into a fast and furious, hot relationship. We were seeing each other every day, then one day he said he couldn't see me that night. He forgot to mention a minor detail, he had a girlfriend that lived out of town, and he had a date with her that night. Oh, but she was twelve years younger than he, and he mentioned other things that he either didn't like about her or that they didn't have in common. But he told me I was great for him and made love to him just the way he always wanted and needed, better than "Karen". We are the same age and have a lot in common. He just couldn't decide. But, in the end, he chose "Karen". Once day soon after we quit seeing each other, I saw the two of them walking hand-in-hand going into a theater. She was a very tall, slim attractive woman and really made Mr. "GQ" look even better. Now I know his requirements for a woman. Sophie, what about us women who aren't tall? We can't turn back the clocks or grow several inches in height? "Hurt in Richmond"


Dear "Hurt in Richmond",

Obviously, Mr. "GQ" cares only about his image and chooses his women as he does his wardrobe. Don't lose any sleep over this one, but just wish "Barbie" and "Ken" a wonderful life. Next time, look beyond the packaging. You will find a treasure worth keeping. He'll be Mr. "JR" - Just Right.

Lovingly, "Sophie"


Dear "Sophie",

I met this guy off a dating internet site. We e-mailed each other a lot, then started talking on the phone. He seemed nice, so I met him at a restaurant for a first date. We had several dates then I felt comfortable to take it to the next level. Sophie, I thought if you had seen one you had seen them all. I don't know how to say this, but there is such a thing as too big? Nothing would work. KY, nothing. As painful as it was, he didn't seem to care. What should I do? What's wrong with me? R.D.

Dear "R.D.",

If he doesn't care how painful it is for you, and you have tried everything, then he is a selfish pig. No man should hurt a woman. Yes, I have heard that some men are quite large. Either very long or thick. It sounds as if this guy is a Bud Lite can. Read my article about it's not the size of the "hard" but the "heart". Look for someone with a better "heart". Sorry for your pain!

Lovingly, "Sophie"


Dear "Sophie",

I don't know who else to ask. I am too embarrassed to ask my girlfriends this, but my lover likes to do different things. Last night he asked me to put a pair of my pantyhose on him. Then carefully take scissors and cut a hole in front, so we could have sex while he wore the pantyhose. Is this too weird? Alicia P.

Dear "Alicia",

Stranger things have happened in the bedroom. If you BOTH were comfortable with it, go for it. No one got hurt, but since you are using scissors around a very special place dear to his heart, it would behoove him not to tick you off prior to this delicate procedure. Ooops!! Sorry, sweetheart. Was that something important that I just cut off? Silky pantyhose feel good on all legs, male and female. Just make sure they aren't your favorite ones!

Lovingly, "Sophie"


Dear "Sophie",

I am now single and in my 40's. I thought I had a lot of knowledge about men and sex having been married for so long, but I have run into a real surprise. I just discovered my partner doesn't like performing oral sex on women (and definitely not men!). This is very different from my ex-husband. Is this unusual? I have never heard of this? Is there something wrong with me?

Confused

Dear "Confused",

You're kidding? I'll have to do some research on this one. Perhaps the readers can provide some input. Men, we need help on this one. I'll write to the Street Doctor to see if there are any articles in his archives. I don't know about you, but that's got to be high on most women's list as requirements for lovers. Have you asked him about this? Let me know.

Lovingly,

"Sophie"


Dear "Sophie",

How do you get a guy to like you? I am highly attracted to this man, but I don't think he likes me in the same way. What can I do? He is a terrific guy and I would love to have a relationship with him. S.M.R.

Dear "S.M.R.",

I have not read all the books on the market that tell you how to make someone love you, but I don't feel that you can force the feelings. They either love you or they don't. Why do we like certain colors, foods, music? It's just who we are inside. You can only be yourself, and if that attracts something in this man, then great. If not, what can you do? There are no buttons to push. It's chemistry. We've all been there, SMR, believe me. There are guys I would loved to have pushed a button to make them love me as I loved them, but it didn't happen. Perhaps our readers know some secrets of success! Don't worry, our time will come and we'll find the right match. Good luck.

Lovingly,

"Sophie"

 

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