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It's "Heart" that makes a man, not "Hard" May 11, 2002 Dear Street Doctor,
I recently received an e-mail from a reader
expressing a point of view shared by many women. We hope your male
readers will read this and take notes.
"Ann's" partner was just in his early 50's
when he began experiencing some signs of erectile dysfunction.
"Ann", being a very warm, loving, and generous woman was very supportive
and helped the situation by suggesting "adjustments" to their
love-making.
She found a book that taught her more
techniques to please her lover. I have read this book and highly
recommend it to all women who are either married or coupled that want to
enhance their sex life with their partner. The title is, "How
To Be a Great Lover, Girlfriend-to-Girlfriend Totally Explicit
Techniques that Will Blow His Mind", by Lou Paget. The book
describes oral, as well as manual techniques, that the woman can use on
the man to bring him pleasure. So, ladies, put baby oil on the
grocery list, as you'll need it for the manual techniques.
In turn, "Ann" shared with her partner
different positions that pleased her and did not require full
erections. One such position was to lie face to face at an angle
(scissors position); the man can have just a soft erection but still be
able to penetrate. This leaves the woman the capability of stimulating
herself while her partner can touch and caress her breasts and other
places. Also, "Ann" always enjoys oral sex, so there were many
alternatives to the standard positions that she and her partner had
enjoyed for years.
She said another book that helped with other
suggestions to their love-making is, "Sex Over 50", by Joel D.
Block, Ph.D. with Susan Crain Bakos. This book explains what
happens to us as we reach this age of our lives and how we can still
have a great sex life with our partner. I have read this book too
and was very pleased and aroused with it's suggestions!
And, of course, then there is Viagra.
Ladies, it takes about an hour for the little pill to take effect.
Don't just sit there, this is the time you can play around! Stimulation
is very important, and believe me, you won't regret it. Then it's
your turn to bring out your own stimulants, Niagara (the little blue
bottle that taste like blueberry Kool-Aid) and Viacreme (topical cream
to give your nerve endings a "kick" start).
Communication, love and respect between
partners are very important through any of these type adjustments as we
get older. I have heard more women explain that there are so many
ways they can be pleased other than just standard intercourse. We
can always go shopping at the local Adam and Eve and purchase a
"substitute penis" that usually brings great pleasure. (Sorry,
guys!) However, what we women want to make very clear is that we
can't buy hugs, tenderness, cuddling, kisses, intimacy. Guys, you
can not be replaced in these areas. These acts come from the
heart, not the hard.
If you guys experience erectile dysfunction
as you age, please do not think we women think you are any less a man.
The size of the penis is not the measuring stick we women use. I
had a reader to write in that there are some men too big, thus too
painful for successful love-making. So in this case, less is more.
It's how you treat us women, from the heart.
I highly recommend you guys get your
prostate checked regularly as recommended by your doctor. Another
book I recommend is on the prostate, "The Prostate, A Guide for Men
and the Women Who Love Them", by Patrick C. Walsh, M.D.,
Urologist-in-Chief, The Johns Hopkins Hospital and Janet Farrar
Worthington, Science Writer. Ladies, the guys won't go out and buy
this, but you may want to anyway. Unfortunately, we have brothers,
dads, and partners that may have problems in this area, and sometimes we
have to encourage them to get the check ups and to see them through some
of these problems. And unfortunately if any of our male loved ones
do get diagnosed with prostate cancer, this book will tell you
everything you will need to know.
Readers, if you have any questions, no
matter how intimate, that you need help with, feel free to write me.
If I don't know the answer, I'll certainly find the answer for you.
Nothing is too intimate, Guys, please!
Thanks for posting this, Street Doctor,
Lovingly,
"Sophie Goldberg"
P.S.
By the way, Street Doctor, when was your
last check up?
May 11, 2002 Dear Sophie, You got it right this time! It's not the size of the hammer that counts, but the swing! Physical often is a more important way to a man's heart than emotional. And, it sure helps if our equipment works too. Thanks again for writing, as always. Regards, The Street Doctor |
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